Hey there. I’m
Isabelle and if you’re reading this, then you’re invading my privacy. I think
there’s a law against that?....Er…trespassing or something. Can’t remember.
I’ve always had a faulty memory, sometimes I think I might be coming down with Alzheimer.
(Just kidding.)
Well, as you’ve
guessed...I wasn’t christened with the name Isabelle. My original name is
something so long and unpronounceable, I decided to spice it up.
Now, down to business. So, I’m not married yet, but I intend
to be…at some point at least. I’m good looking, I think. I mean, everybody
likes to believe that there’s something good to look at
in/on/about…whatever(take your pick) them.
So pal, you
might not have those celebrity-like looks, but hey…don’t put yourself down.
There’s gotta be something good looking about you.
Enough about beauty and good looks. Did I mention I’m way
past thirty? If you’re Nigerian, you’d
know that I’m overdue for marriage.
Well, that’s what they think and I absolutely disagree
with them. I mean, what’s the big deal?
Is a woman defined by her marital status?
Do I have to be
married to have a place in society? Do I have to be married before I’m looked
at and respected?
It’s
quite annoying I must say when people look at me and expect me to be married
and when I tell them I’m not…they look at me like a weirdo. I mean, seriously?
Now, don’t get
me wrong, I’m not against marriage and I do know that someday I will settle
down with someone worth it, not out of desperation but because I’m ready,
because I’ve acquired enough knowledge about marriage to actually keep a man.
If everyone
thought like me, the divorce rate in the world would be lesser.
I wish everyone
agrees with my view, though. I’ve had squabbles with my parents and relatives
about my…er…condition (I’m not sick, hello!)
Only last week
a relative whom I had no idea existed called me. Right out of nowhere. He
identified himself as my paternal uncles’ cousin. Like seriously, is this guy
for real?
The conversation
that ensued after introductions went something like this:
HIM: Chi, so how your side?
ME: Fine Uncle. How’s the family?
HIM: Very fine. You
know, Nonye my daughter got married last week? We didn’t see you at the
wedding.
That’s because I had
no idea Nonye existed, I wanted to say.
ME: Em…yes sir. I wasn’t available.
HIM: Which reminds me, Chi…when is your own coming up? When
will that young man bring wine to us on your behalf?
ME: (Laughs) Soon sir.
HIM: Are you sure? Or you want us to consult our local seer
for you?
ME: Uncle, that’s not necessary. Everything is under
control.
HIM: Hmmmmm…You know age is not on your side. We want grandchildren.
ME: Yes sir. I will take that under advisement.
HIM: What?...advise what?...It is not an advise ooh…
I kinda blocked out the rest of his tirade. By the end of
the call, I was royally pissed.
I knew that was
the handwork of my mother. I know this because she’s spent the last five years
pleading, nagging, imploring and even threatening me to find a man for myself.
How do I tell
her that many men have come my way but I have not found them worthy of me? Is
that pride?
I don’t think so.
I just know who I am and I won’t sell myself short. I don’t need some man with
big words, flattery and money. I deserve better than that.
My Pastor always
says that the first step in any relationship or marriage is giving up your “I”.
Well, that is anothertori for another day.
But basically,
he’s saying…if you’re not ready to submit your ‘rights’ completely to your
partner then you aren’t ready for marriage.
Well, I
haven’t met the man I’d be willing to give myself to completely.
Selflessness is
the key to a stable, steady, long lasting and happy marriage.
Me, I’m too
selfish to care for another that much, so I guess it’s bye-bye men until I meet
that man.
That’s all for today folks. We’ll catch up later.
I
remain Isabelle; single, and happy. Ciao!
Just great. Lesson for them desperado babies.
ReplyDeleteLol @Anita I hope they learn from it.Thanks for checking in!
ReplyDeletenice rambling isabella.....maybe you should take a leap of faith in surrendering your ''selfishness'' to God and then when that ''worthy'' man comes, it will be easy to submit yourself to him
ReplyDeleteHehehehe. Catchy comment Tope! And still so true.
ReplyDeleteThank you for reading her ramblings. I appreciate.
Hehe...Isabella, you are on your own.
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